Are you a Christian and having problems in your marriage? Do you see yourself on the verge of divorce? Are you looking for solutions to salvage your marriage? Don’t despair, you’re not alone.

Often people will think that Christians have no problems in their marriages. Sometimes people outside of the church seem to think Christians are so fortunate that they don’t have marital problems, but then they won’t search for why that is, even though it’s a mistaken perception. Sometimes Christians themselves erroneously think that they are not supposed to have any difficulties in their marriage because of the fact that they are Christian. The fact is, Christians are still human and will still have difficulties when two people with different mindsets, different ideas, and different views disagree with each other.

God is the one who ordained the institution of marriage. It was His idea from the start, and he gave us some pretty good guidelines to do it His way. The problem is we often want to do it our own way because we want to think the ways God said a marriage should be are outdated and unfair to women. This usually comes from a misinterpretation of Ephesians 5:22 where God says, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” This is even a common excuse some people give for not being a Christian at all. However, this is usually taken completely out of context, because right after that, in verse 25, it states, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave Himself for it.” A husband is told to love his wife with a sacrificial love, willingly giving all of himself to her. He is not supposed to be bossy toward her, treat her harshly, take her for granted, or be demeaning of. If the husband is excercising such a love toward his wife, then she should willingly “submit” to his authority of the home, show him loving kindness, and willingly come under his protection and care. It’s a two-way street and neither the husband nor the wife is to be a dictator or a tyrant. You may be in a struggling Christian marriage or perhaps you’re a non-Christian with marriage problems looking for a way to salvage your marriage and avoid the pain of divorce. You may be seeing things fall apart in your marriage and you may be going out of your mind asking yourself “how can I restore my marriage?” If this is you, then I have found a very valuable tool to help couples heal their marriage and avoid divorce doing things God’s way. I’ve written a little about it and I’ve linked to it on my blog, where I also have other Christian life articles, devotionals and links.